I just went through a five-stage interview process for a new job (which I got!) and it occurred to me that the parallels for this process and finding the right partner are pretty similar. Bear with me as I present this humorous analogy to you.

Intro: Being single > being unemployed

Ok so you are single…

Musings on maleness, communicating our feelings, and the difficult journey to happiness

Displaying fragility is part of the process of moving.

Tl;dr: Most men are afraid to show their emotions. This means they cant effectively communicate their trauma, seek help to heal their wounds and move towards a better place mentally.

You cant fix something unless you can accept…

This is a story about self-awareness, managing expectations in new relationships, a tenuous Coldplay lyric, and moving on from divorce.

Consciously uncoupling my Coldplay listening habits was a different type of breakup

“Lights will guide you home
And ignite your bones
And I will try to fix you”

Live 8, 2nd July 2005, I was at a wedding. My ex wife and…

Generic stock photo showing genetically good hair and teeth. This man is a psychopath tho…

Being a single dad is a complicated, wonderful thing. Let me explain…

Like most single dads, my marriage ended in divorce. Despite our differences, we agreed to both put a ton of effort into keeping our two children informed, and gently taking them lovingly through this extremely difficult process, so…

The OG SSRI. Prozac 20mg. The start of the journey

WARNING: this is a bunch of opinions around antidepressants. Do not take this literally or regard as any kind of ‘truth’. I am not a doctor or a psychiatrist. Any kind of ‘exit plan’ needs to be discussed with your doctor.


Hello. My name is Mat and I have had…

Britney (Max Martin) wasn't the first homo sapien to float the idea of loneliness literally ending a life

This is a story of loneliness.

Like most divorced, single dads, I live on my own. It sounds fucking awesome, lots of pizza, beer, videogames and movies, no-one to tell you what to do or when to stop. …

TL;DR — Dating apps are awful. There, I said it.


Dating apps have provided a way for humans to meet others for another questionably awful attempt at meeting ‘the one’. This presents a variety of issues that highlight the problems with computers trying to be ‘human’

Humans are broken

You know that aisle in the supermarket, where all the unsold, nearly past its…

Hello ladies!

‘Digital Peacocking’ and how we all prefer the simulation

According to Wikipedia, Hyperreality is an inability of consciousness to distinguish reality from a simulation of reality, especially in technologically advanced postmodern societies.

When the first Matrix movie came out I wanted to find out a bit more about simulation theory and philosophy, I came across an article which listed…

What the movie ‘Titanic’ teaches us about fantasy relationships…

All over the internets, the plot holes in the movie Titanic are a popular read. For me, one of them is an almost perfect analogy for the worst type of relationship, the ‘Fantasy relationship’.

Rose meets Jack whilst flirting with suicide (as one does), falls in love almost instantly. Fucks…

I feel genuinely sorry for people who actually want to buy snake oil

So this article came up on the BBC News:

Amazon ‘flooded by fake five-star reviews’ — Which? report

It seems that fake reviews are a massive issue for Amazon

This bit caught my eye:

‘Amazon said it was using automated technology to weed out false reviews’.

Using AI to try…

Mat Venn

Design Director. Dad. Cyclist. Flâneur. Piano student. Fondue enthusiast. Hopeless romantic. Not necessarily in that order. IG/Twitter: @matvenn

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